To my fellow Christian young people on CT, Please allow me to share a couple of thoughts regarding this “sex” issue brewing: Firstly, sex tends to exaggerate itself when you haven’t had it or aren’t allowed to have it yet. Its urges are valid, but often inflated. It can cloud your thinking. Sexual urges originate in the limbic system—the emotional part of your brain. Let me not bore you with the jargon. But think about it: if you see a snake and immediately scream and run without caring about your steeze, that same part of your brain has taken over. This is called a limbic hijack—when your emotional brain shuts down the activity of your prefrontal cortex, your thinking brain. All those sexual urges you feel happen in this limbic system. That’s why sex may look like the ultimate deal in marriage. It’s important, but it’s not the ultimate. I’m saying this so that the passion for intercourse won’t be one of the reasons you marry—or worse, choose a partner. Let it not be that a person’s sexual “game” is why you want to marry them. Marriage is far beyond sex. Challenges will arise that will quickly strip sex of any immediate relevance in your home. So while you factor it in, please don’t let it blind you to other important aspects of marriage. Secondly, regarding calls to “talk more about these things” among us: It’s a noble call, but we must be tactful. It’s sad how bad the world has gone. The simple instruction “do not deprive each other” used to be enough. But exposure to modern media and the internet has unfortunately expanded our sexual imaginations—through soft and hard pornography—so much that we now have unrealistic expectations from our partners. Even with this, I doubt any young person doesn’t already know enough about sex. Many, including Christians, sadly, are already engaging in it. That said, if sex isn’t being discussed much in your local assembly, it’s for good reason. The Church isn’t primarily for that. If you need information, talk to the counseling unit, discuss it privately with your partner, or find healthy, biblical, and professional resources online. Lastly, let’s be discreet in how we speak about these things—especially online as Christians. There’s nothing new in what’s been said about sex in the past 24 hours. You’re not spreading awareness; you’re just expressing how “wild” you think you’ll be in marriage. I implore us all to be more discreet. In summary, please don’t be blinded by sexual urges. I beg you. Solomon had a thousand women and found no satisfaction in any of them. Desire marital sex. Enjoy it—the Bible commands it: “Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love.” — Proverbs 5:19 But subordinate it to the more lasting things that define a great marriage. If sex is the sole reason you are looking forward to marriage, you may be disappointed. Let God's wisdom guide you. I pray God helps you. Amen