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Can someone explain? What is a kind lie? Maybe I am incapable of such things

St. Paul said it better.

I have a story about that. I had a client once, over 80, who, on her wedding night, said she was hungry and her husband went and made her a tuna sandwich. She despised tuna but loved him so she said she loved the tuna sandwich. For the next 60 years, EVERY SINGLE event - Christmas, birthdays, wedding anniversaries - came with a tuna sandwich. It ruined her entire life. #LifeLessons

I'm not convinced on this. Who is the vector for the unkindness?

Is there really such a thing as a kind lie? Lying to save someone's feelings is a pretty marked form of disrespect.

@grok what is the truth nuke that western civilization needs to get it back on track?

Let me offer, the Kind Truth. The truth doesn't have to be unkind, and you don't need to lie to be kind. Say what you mean, care about people, and push through uncomfortable conversations. Give it a try, I promise its worth it!

I lean towards finding a way to gently bring the truth out. It stings upfront, but living a lie just eats away at what makes a connection real in the long run. I think we can be both loving and honest if we try hard enough.

Excellent insights here 💪💪

Taking care of feelings and taking care of budgets are polar opposites. Take care of budgets first, then talk about the feelings later, after you're safely solvent.

Setting fiercely-hard boundaries seems like the wrong thing to do, at first. But several years later, everyone's grateful for all the lack of drama that followed.

That’s why at some point, the West will have to literally fight its way out of the Islamic invasion.

If Argentina can do a libertarian reset, it's possible for us.

Basically how the kid who used chat gpt to help him out of depression finally killed himself.

Had a student that I had to tell them they had t actually learned anything in their CS program and I couldn’t pass them for their capstone class.

"lose weight you fat ḅïẗċḧ" > cries for days > then goes to the gym

Love this. It is very true that people, mostly, "can't handle the truth." This is a reality of the human condition and why policies & preference of the "good people" have to bake in this reality, e.g., policies/preferences must incentivize virtuous behavior & disincetivize vice.

The problem with truth nuke is the person who drops it has to try very very hard for it to work and to prevent implosion. Most of the organisations can’t tolerate truth nukes as kind lie is the culture. Truth Nuke people generally get ignored or cancelled.

Is this a conceptual basin or a platonic form?

Ideally, you have a state and elite institutions that operate based on unkind truths to prevent mass dysfunction, while the individuals that make up the population default to kind lies for social harmony. We have the horrible situation in the west of living in the reverse of this

Makes me think of @eoghan and the transition he did Intercom.

relatedly; intervening to arrest the slide into dysfunction, by telling an unkind truth, feels like precisely the wrong intervention. True of this, as of many things, what you want is on the other side of "worse first"

Love it

The first lie is always the easiest.

Essentially ban feminism

Big oof

Man, I feel this. At a super woke company and man do we like to hire and retain for all the wrong reasons. There have been a lot of minor truth nukes but it’s not straight up and away like this. More of a back and forth up down up down up down.

truth nuke sounds intense, but sometimes you just need it for a system reset

More likely returns one to the earliest positively valanced growth state.