Q: How much should you assist your toddler?
A: Only as much as they need to avoid frustration and find success.
After 8-12 months of near total dependence, toddlers unlock a whole new world in which they have the language, cognition, and motor skills to begin acting on their own desires.
We call this agency.
And while it can be a real shift for us as parents (after becoming accustomed to meeting infants’ every need), it’s important to honor your toddlers’ growing independence and allow them the time and space to develop skills of their own.
I’m such a fan of this independent little one, who is not only determined to free herself from her car seat - but supremely confident in her ability to do so.
Of course toddlers need plenty of adult supervision - to avoid not only physical danger but the very real frustration that comes along with the misalignment of their desires and abilities.
But toddlerhood is also a time to begin following your little one’s lead, allowing them the opportunity to work through challenges and, yes, occasionally “worrying about yourself” (as our hero so aptly puts it).
Think of it as becoming a trusted advisor, rather than the “do-er” of all things.