A narcissist doesn’t love you. They love your access. They love your energy, your empathy, your effort ... but they don’t value it. They study you, mirror you, charm you... all just to get what they want. To them, people aren’t people ... they’re supply. A means to feel important. A backup plan. A safe place to run to when life humbles them.
They’ll cry about childhood wounds and tell you their trauma made them this way ... but when you offer them healing, support, or therapy, they resist. Because healing requires accountability, and accountability destroys the illusion they hide behind. Narcissists live in cycles of chaos and blame. They know exactly what they’re doing ... they just don’t care enough to change.
You can pour every ounce of love, compassion, and loyalty into them… and they will still betray you behind your back, all while painting you as the problem. They’ll manipulate your emotions, twist your words, invalidate your feelings, and then gaslight you for reacting like a human being.
Being with a narcissist feels like drowning while they watch you and ask why you’re not smiling. It’s mentally exhausting, emotionally destructive, and spiritually draining. And when you’re finally empty, they’ll call you “too sensitive” for needing to be refilled.
So if you’re dealing with one, listen carefully ... you can’t fix them, and you can’t save them. You owe yourself peace, not pain. Walk away before you lose yourself trying to prove your worth to someone who never intended to see it.
Protect your heart. Reclaim your power. You deserve love that heals, not love that hurts.