One day, a brother reached out to me that her sister in UK is in abusive marriage that even as it stand, her husband threaten not to put her and their child on post study visa (their student was about to expire then).
This brother sound so concern and as someone who have a married sister, I was so concern too. I didn’t know what to do, and I don’t want to give wrong advice.
So I called
@Abdul_Taj001 and
@faisally01 and added the brother on the call, the brother narrated everything all over again for both TJ and Faisal, so Faisal suggest that we add the victim on the call to hear from her. Her brother added her and she talked as well, she was talking and crying, all of us were so concern and suggestions started flowing in, at the end, we concluded that since they have a child together and that child was born in the UK, she should go to social workers with the child that she’ll definitely get help and all. We follow the case and everything was going fine, something in me just said I should request to speak to the husband, then I asked her to give me her husband’s number which she sent.
I called the man, greeted him and he responded calmly to my greetings, I said I was calling on behalf of his wife and I explained everything the wife said to him. He sighed, heavy sigh o and he asked if I’ve time to have a lengthy conversation and I said yes.
He started from how he struggled financially to bring her from Nigeria to the UK, they relocated on study visa. He sold everything he had, this lady didn’t drop a naira, in fact her nonchalant attitude made her missed flight, her excuse for missing the flight was because she’s pregnant, so he had to book another flight for her (he arrived Uk first as per student). The lady arrived and started working full time, and she refused to support her husband who can only do 20hrs job and still has school fees to pay.
She has arrested the husband 3 times
After given birth, she stopped having sex with the husband (husband started having sex with someone else).
She stopped cooking and started eating out.
All of these started the moment she started earning.
For every allegation that husband laid against her, he back it up with chat screenshots, voice notes, pictures and police cases (she lied against him and arrested him 3 times)
At some point the police asked him to leave the house that he’s a threat to his wife and their child.
Everything the lady said to us that the husband was doing to her, husband counter everything with facts, the only thing he admitted was having sex with someone else.
After the police asked him to leave the house, he left and never looked back, reality down on her, she started struggling alone with her child, which now affected her work, she couldn’t work longer hours again and money no dey again. And even if she was able to work, most of her salary now goes to nanny who babysit the child for her. And to crown it all, the husband didn’t reach out to her at all which was something she didn’t expect.
She added one plus one together and concluded in her head that her husband might not want to put her on post study visa due to all that happened which was the reason she came to lie to us.
To the video here, no one know what happened between this one and her husband, but if not that women has become a threat to the husband’s wellbeing and visa status, men in the UK hardly remove women from their visa, even if we are being factual, it’s women who are quick to report their husbands to home office and have them removed from visa. There are so many broken marriage in UK where husband is the main applicant on visa and the wife still remain dependent till now even though they’re separated, but I can’t say the same for visa where wife is the main applicant.