Really surprised by the replies to this post. Apparently, lots of folks have an outright HOSTILE reaction to the idea of a non-hierarchical marriage.
I don't think all those guys fantasizing about highly unequal marriages — with some even saying the husband should be the wife's boss (yes, boss) — have thought things through.
Character traits are HIGHLY heritable. A weak woman will give you weak children, and no, her weak character won't only be passed down to her daughters while somehow magically bypassing her sons — that's not how genetics work (and it certainly doesn't sound like a desirable outcome anyway).
If you want to raise servants, marry a servant. If, on the other hand, you want to build a strong dynasty that will give birth to a whole new culture, you need a strong barbarian queen at your side.
Over six years in, and every day, I still become more and more certain of the fact that I've made the perfect choice.
I don't understand how hierarchical marriages work.
There's a lot of talk on trad Twitter about a submissive wife and an authoritarian husband being the ideal marriage model, and honestly, I can't imagine how this kind of power dynamic could survive in a happy marriage, especially behind closed doors.
Reaching the ultimate degree of intimacy with another person becomes impossible the moment you introduce rank into the relationship. I see why the "I don't want my wife to be my best friend!" guys find the idea appealing, but I would assume most people long for a deeper connection with their spouses than such an arrangement could allow for.
The trads have correctly identified a problem — the damage done to male-female relationships by woke culture — but, in trying to solve it, they ended up overcorrecting and, much like their opponents, missing the ideal.