This is the hardest thing I’ve ever written
It’s long, read it or not I don’t really give a shit, this post is for me to say what I’ve been wanting to say for years but was too much of a coward to follow through
I’ve been getting DMs these last few months asking me how I did it
How I “made it”
What the blueprint is
(I didn’t even make it, or at least prob not by your definition)
And the truth is..
I’ve been lying
And I feel dirty
So tonight, I’m going to be honest for the first time
Short answer:
You can’t copy what I did
I’m not the result of some fucking morning routine or discipline hack or whatever the fuck people sell you on this app
As bad as it sounds, I am just the result of trauma
Of nurture, not nature
I said I’d be honest, so I will be as much as I can, and the only reason I am doing so is because I have teenagers in my dms and I just can’t sleep at night knowing I am saying shit that’s, at least in my case, irreproducible
Shit happened to me so bad it rewired my brain, literally speaking, see for yourself. I won’t mention details because it’s still too painful
My own parents don’t know what I’ll share below
Anyways…
Here’s my official report, translated word for word, from the head of psychiatry at one of the best hospitals in Switzerland:
ICD-10 F.62: Enduring personality change after a catastrophic experience.
The patient presents with chronic post-traumatic stress disorder characterized by acute affective numbing, emotional detachment, recurrent nightmares, resulting in a lasting inability to experience feelings, whether positive or negative, as well as a strong survivor’s guilt.
(Btw that’s common with kids who grew up in war torn countries, feel free to make conclusions about what happens when they grow up)
Now you know the real beni, not the “social media life is always pretty” beni
Trust me it’s no fucking badge of honor
It’s just my reality
And as sick as it sounds, or like my mom used to say “there is a positive in everything if you keep an open mind”
Yes, it’s my edge
My biggest edge comes from being born with a rare genetic disorder and getting hospitalized for like 1/3 of my life from birth to 10yo
Most of the emotions I’ve shown online the last 4 years?
Faked
My biggest fear growing up was that people would think I am a psychopath
So I wore a mask
I only actually feel emotions, especially empathy, towards people who helped me or help kids in situations I was in as a child, and weirdly enough I feel loads of empathy for sick kids, so much so that I can’t enter a pediatric hospital
I’m really just numb
Have been since I am around 10 years old, they told me that the mind can only take so much until it’s breaking point
Then it finds a coping mechanism
Mine instead of depression or anxiety or whatever else, became some sort of extreme self imposed stoicism
It’s fantastic for business
I can take unlimited rejection, unlimited “no sorry, you’re not good enough.”
Not because “I’m built different” or whatever dumb shit influencers sell you, but because my brain literally doesn’t process 99% of emotions
Sounds like a superpower, and yeah in trading or business it is
But in reality, it’s not so easy
Every other night, even 20y+ later, I see dead kids in my dreams, the ones I grew up next to in hospitals, asking me why I survived and they didn’t, asking why I stole their spot on earth, asking why I deserved to live and they didn’t
To all the ones that say they want to be where I am, you still want to swap places with me? If so be my guest, I’ll happily give it up
I’ve been taking meds and nootropics that could sedate a horse for the past decade, just so I would feel something
I’m lucky I live in a country where I can test everything monthly, lucky that I can afford the 5-fig a year it costs
But don’t let anyone tell you this is “sustainable”
It isn’t, work is literally my coping mechanism, idgaf about your opinion, it just how it is
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