The 10 Biggest Mistakes Young Men Make In Their 20's And 30's
1. Settling for a job they hate
A lot of dudes over-index on fear of poverty and under-index on resistance to humiliation, and before they know it they are 35 with some job they hate undergoing a host of daily normie humiliation rituals to keep an income that really isn't that good anyway...
2. Settling for a wife they don't really like
Some guys just create a dating profile, start dating the first girl that responds to them regardless of if they really like her, then marry her reluctantly 5 years later even though they don't really love her... etc... very unfortunate but common scenario...
3. Poor diet and obesity
Often one's youthful teenage hormones and high activity levels will override a bad diet, but it will inevitably catch up with you by your late twenties. Taking the time to understand nutrition and actually counting your calories and macros is one of the most asymmetric actions one can take in modern life. Is seriously life-changing.
4. Developing some kind of drug dependency
This could be prescription or recreational, and often the drug itself is not the main problem but rather the fact that virtually all drugs will nuke your hormone levels if you become physically dependent on them or use them daily, including common prescription drugs like SSRI's and anxiolytics and even skincare stuff like Accutane. If you can make it to age 35 with no drug dependencies the world will literally be your oyster.
5. Developing severe screen-addiction
The worst example of this is p0rn because it utterly degrades your vril and thumos, but mindless TikTok slop can be awful too, and video games can be bad (although I think in their highest form they are more akin to art and no worse to engage in than watching great films).
6. Injury OR un-needed surgery
These are both often somewhat life destroying. Dudes will be inactive for ten years and gain 50 lbs then think they can still run or jump like when they were 16 (or ego-lift on the barbells), then either destroy their knee or back or else moderately injure it and get roped into a surgery they don't really need which is often even worse.
7. Taking finasteride
Yes, there are some guys who claim to have taken it for years with no ill effects, but when you take it you are literally blocking DHT - the hormone that makes you male and is responsible for the majority of your sexual performance and athletic + mental health as a man. The risks vastly outweigh the benefits and tons of dudes attribute life-ruining results to it.
8. Getting on TRT before having kids
TRT (testosterone replacement therapy) causes your body to stop producing sperm (though not semen, interestingly). Some of my fellow gymbros will point out that you can (partially) prevent this or restore spermatogenesis via HCG, FSH, etc, HOWEVER, that is the *ideal* scenario and the mental bandwith and emotional toll on couples in this scenario is usually vast. This is a very nuanced discussion as certainly TRT is preferable to [insert extremely bad outcome].... BUT... it is not worth it in most scenarios imo if you're still young and have not yet done your procreation-maxxing.
9. Chronic sleep deprivation
To be quite honest I think this might be the worst of all the things on this list. Your body NEEDS sleep. Chronic sleep deprivation is probably the single worst thing you can do from a health perspective.
10. Giving up on your dreams
You are only on this planet once. Life is unbelievably and tragically short. It is never worth it to give up on the dreams you had in your youth. Indeed it is better to try and fail at them 1000 times then to give up on them imo.
Conclusion
Those are the most common mistakes I see dudes make in their 20's and 30's...
The silver lining is that none of them are fatal. There are always worthwhile things to do in life, and every passing moment is another chance to turn it all around.
Also the information and opportunities at our disposal today are greater than any time in human history.
With 2-3 years of focused intentionality you can utterly transform your life...