“this may seem like a stupid example”
These seemingly small things are enormous:
1- When new ideas are encouraged (and taken seriously), more good ideas are produced.
2- It is relationship building, trust building. Absolutely priceless.
3- Win-win solutions are fun, and they destroy the myth that suffering is inevitable/necessary part of life.
4- Knowing that, for any future problem a win-win might be discovered, you become more hopeful, optimistic, and happy.
Every time you force something, you degrade these benefits.
My son, regularly offers third options that everyone is thankful for.
The other day I had to make a run to the drug store at night to get some milk,and my son wanted to come…But my daughter also wanted to come, and truth be told I kinda didn’t want to take both kids. I was trying to explain why I didn’t want two kids to come, and justify it somehow (like because she recently had a cold, and it’s chilly outside), but really I just didn’t want to carry her (I carry her all over the place, lol) and my son was like, “you said you wanted someone to play Roblox with you, how about you stay with mom and play Roblox?” Mom says, “Ok!”Daughter exclaims, “Yay!” And I’m like, “sweet, let’s roll!” Brilliant, everyone was down, no further discussion, no crying, no arguing, everyone happy doing something fun.
I dunno, this may seem like a stupid example to some, but if you’ve ever had a difference of opinion between 4 people, including young children, I hope you can see the significance.
The crazy thing about new ideas, seemingly big or seemingly small, is that you really can’t predict where they’re going to come from. And a good new idea doesn’t feel like “criticism” at all if you’re in the flow, and not stuck.
And that may be my biggest gripe with “Critical Rationalism.”